Men 101: The villains and the Hero ( Continuation part 2)

                     Men 101: the villains and the hero part2

You think  our first MR. is horrible? Think again! Introducing our second MR. Wrong: MR. Control freak. This man is your worst nightmare and most dreadful fear all wrapped in one. He would not only try to run your life but ruin it while he’s at it. He has his rigid and established way of reasoning and the chances of him ever deviating from his thinking lines are as slim as a Nigerian being born with blue eyes. He’s so close minded to the opinions and viewpoints of others and awake to his that he appears almost like a robot. You might have seen examples of men like this in movies. If you were into the series one- tree- hill like I was, then you’d know of the control freak father_ Dan; who pushed his son so hard in basketball till he overdosed on performance drugs which almost took his life. In his relationship with you, MR. Control freak would push you to reduce your friends and circle of influence till you’re left with just him. That way, he’d ride you more effectively. Another name we could give this guy is MR. Selfish because he’d try to reshape you and you’re life into everything that suits him. Any quality in you that doesn’t conform to his needs will be gotten rid of; any friend you have that opposes or criticizes his character would have to go. Your career would only be allowed if it doesn’t clash with his needs, if it does, then you can bid it goodbye! You’d feel literally like one held in hostage but most times you’d be unable to break free because he has successfully beat you into submission. You’re no longer able to reason as an individual. He has successfully bent you to see yourself through his eyes and judgement. I think I just heard someone say, “even if na juju sef”. But MR. Control freak is very good at what he does. He has effective instruments. He uses verbal abuse to intimidate and threaten you till your complex is dependent on his opinion of you. If his verbal weapon is not yielding 100% result, he’d supplement with physical abuse. I’m definite at this point you’re saying,” who would be nuts enough to go out with this kind of guy?” but trust me, relationships like this are very common. There are tonnes of reasons ladies fall for this kind of guy. Initially, you might view his control nature as protectiveness. This would flatter you and make you feel loved. But only for a short time… Another important reason is that some of us want to be controlled! Let’s face it! Perhaps due to the equally controlling home you emerged from, you’re unconsciously looking for a man with his take charge attitude that will define and dominate your life. Believe me, when the torment and torture begins, you’d realise his blessing is also his curse.
One thing that is synonymous with our first two MR. Wrongs is that they are relatively easy to spot from a safe distance. You need not have gone deep in the relationship before you identify their sinister qualities. This brings us to our third MR. Wrong; presenting, MR. Wonderful..

(To be continued...)